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often hear from people who are
looking to figure out exactly makes a man want to commit to a woman. Because
many women have tried different types of strategies and tricks and none of
these have worked. They want to know what they are doing wrong and what they
can start doing right. There are plenty of things that women try when they are
trying to get reluctant men to commit that are quite wrong. It is my belief
that ultimatums don't work. Neither does pretending to be someone who you are
not or pretending to be who you think he wants you to be. Playing mind games
doesn't work either. So what does? I'll tell you in the following article.
Falling In Love With The Right Woman At The Right Time: This might seem quite simplistic, but it is true.
You can do any number of different things, but if the love isn't there, it will
be very difficult to get him to commit. However, often the love is there but
the time is not right. Men are often reluctant to commit when they are too
young or too scattered by other obligations like their schooling or beginning
their career. They often want to reach a certain degree of success or maturity
before they settle down. A smart woman understands this and makes him believe
that this is what she wants as well. Because rushing a man before the time is
right for him is one of the worst things that you can do.
Believing That the Woman He Loves Doesn't Want To Tie Him Down or Hold
Him Back: This is huge. One of the
largest things that contributes to a man's reluctance to commit is his fear
that once he marries or commits to you, you're going to want to limit him or
tie him down. There's that old stereotype that once a man settles down, his
exciting, fun, and fulfilling life is over can be hard to overcome. That's why
it's important that you set up your relationship so that he knows that you are not
going to tie him down. He must know that once he commits to you, it's not your
goal to control, manipulate, or tame him.
Knowing That His Life Is Enhanced By Having You in It: Many men are actually quite happy to commit when
they feel as if the woman they love makes their life better. Once he believes
that you make him want to be a better man, it's only going to be natural that
he always wants you in his life because not having you around risks him not
becoming the best version of himself. He should believe that being in love with
you and having you in his life makes his life better and also makes him a
better man.
Knowing That the Woman He Loves Understands Him and Loves Him Anyway: Men aren't all that different from women in
this regard. When we begin dating someone, of course we put our best self on
full display because we want to attract the other person. This is normal and
acceptable. But this poses a risk. Because you can begin to wonder if the other
person would really still love and want you if they knew the real you. And that
can be one reason that men are reluctant to commit. They worry that you love
him for superficial reasons. They can wonder whether you would still love them
if they were poor, unemployed, or struggling.
That's why it's very important that you always stress that you know him
intimately and you love the real him. He must know that you don't want to be
with him because of anything other than the fact that you love him and enjoying
being with him. Don't ever focus on material or superficial things that can be
fleeting. Instead, focus on what is real - and that is the feelings between
you.
Knowing That The Woman He Loves Isn't Trying To Change Or Manipulate
Him: As I've alluded to before, men
really hesitate to commit when they feel as if you are manipulating them in
order to trick them into doing so. So he is much more likely to commit to you
when he thinks that this is all his own idea. Yes, you can nudge him along and
set up your relationship so that it is favourable to a commitment, but you
never want for him to feel manipulated or pushed.
If you have a certain man that you want to commit to you, know that you
need to continue to make sure that your relationship is a healthy and happy
one; Know that you should make him believe that you aren't trying to limit him.
And convince him that having you in his life makes his life so good that he
wouldn't ever want to be without you, so that you will likely eventually get
your commitment. They key is to make him want to very willingly commit and to
make it seem like it was his idea
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