Marriage problems can come on suddenly. As if out of nowhere, your spouse may decide they no longer love you and no longer want to be together. No matter the cause, this is understandably a difficult and confusing time for anyone. You may never have been in such a situation before and really aren't sure what to do. Luckily, there are some things you can do to deal with a marriage crisis and rebuild the relationship with your partner.
Be willing to give more
Successful marriages get that way because both partners invest similar amounts of time and effort into making it work. When your marriage is on the rocks though, you have to be willing to contribute more. Especially if your partner is less than interested.
Don't give up hope, even if your partner has requested a divorce. Even if they believe there is no hope for the future, it is possible to get your marriage back on track. The strongest and longest lasting relationships are not without their rocky patches. The key is hanging in there through the tough times. When you get through a crisis like this, the relationship comes back even stronger than before.
Find out the underlying causes
Though they complain about everything you do, and pick holes in every statement you make, don't mistake the content of these outbursts as the cause of the problem. Most often, underlying feelings of guilt and frustration express themselves as anger as your partner justifies their feelings towards you. So don't take the complaints personally, listen and try to understand how your partner is feeling without reacting and fanning the flames.
A marriage crisis is not an easy thing to get through by any means. Once a spouse has decided to end the relationship, it is often a response to something else going on within themselves. It can take a lot of time to work through it, but as long as you remain committed and put in the effort to support and appreciate your partner, you have every chance of pulling through with a stronger relationship in the end.
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