We all know where a relationship goes without trust. Absolutely nowhere. So if you want a successful relationship, you want to do what it takes to build trust and maintain it. That makes perfect sense, right? Of course it does; yet many of the techniques used to keep a relationship alive end up having an unexpected, negative effect on trust. To make sure you don't fall into these shady little traps, consider these six tips that help build trust in a relationship.
3 Ways to Build Trust
1 - Give it out to get it back. You may have wished at some
point that your partner would trust you more. Well, guess what! Your ticket to
getting the trust you want may lie in dishing out the trust your partner wants.
Maybe you think you're the one more deserving of trust, but that's not the
point. Trust is only at its best when it goes both ways, so by reaching out to
your partner you show that you have the courage to take the lead.
Instead of trying to catch the one you love in a
lie, try to catch him or her telling the truth. When you do, make sure to acknowledge
it. Also, practice regularly assuming that your beloved is telling the truth.
If they don't, you'll find out eventually; but it's better not to obsess over
what may not be true. If you just have the courage to assume the best, you'll
be surprised how much more smoothly things go in your relationship.
2 - Share openly. Although keeping secrets
isn't the same as telling an outright lie, it is still a form of dishonesty and
may make it hard to build trust in a relationship. Your significant other is
the one person you should feel comfortable sharing your deepest secrets with,
so be as open as possible. Do your best to share whatever is going on, keeping
in mind how you might feel if your significant other withheld things from you.
If you ever worry that being open will cause a problem, consider that secrets
have a way of surfacing anyway and the best person to deliver the truth is you.
3 - Nurture your relationship. If you've ever had a
beautiful plant that you didn't take care of, you know what happens to a
relationship when you don't give it the tender loving care that's required. It
withers and eventually dies. A relationship must be tended to and nurtured,
which means patience and dedication are in order.
You'll find that it's so much easier to build trust
when your partner senses your high level of commitment to the relationship.
Wondering how to do it? Spend time getting to know your partner on the deepest
levels, acknowledge the positive things they do, share new experiences
together, apologize when hurt feelings are involved, forgive quickly and put
each other first.
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