Lots
of excitement surrounds the engagement, wedding, and honeymoon, but as the
weeks, months, and years roll one into the other, that excitement can die. That
is because routine often replaces the fun, connection, and excitement as time
wears on.
But
this does not have to be the case.
Many
marriages survive because the spouses make an effort to keep the relationship
fresh and important.
Here
are seven tips for getting the spark back if you've lost yours:
1. Decide
that the marriage is important. You and your spouse must decide what
type of priority your marriage is in your day-to-day lives. If you do not make
the marriage a priority, then everything else will get in the way.
2. Remember
why you two got married. If you feel the day-to-day routine is crowding
out your love, affection, and warm feelings for your spouse, then take some
time to remember why you two got married in the first place. Then focus on
building a life around that desire and interest.
3. Find
something special just for the two of you. If you two never spend time
alone or never engage in activities just for you, then you won't build
intimacy. Intimacy and connection are both important to a healthy marriage. So
find a special activity that you two enjoy and can do. And don't make it a
one-off. Schedule time to engage in that activity regularly.
4. Share
something personal. Think of something personal to share with your
spouse. It does not have to be a big thing, but it does have to be something
important to you. Take some time discussing your day, your work, your goals,
etc. And do the same with your spouse. Be sure to listen to what your spouse is
telling you. Sharing small things with each other helps to connect you.
5. Plan
something special. Everyone likes to feel catered to or taken care of.
Do that for your spouse. Plan a special meal, activity, event, outing, etc.,
designed to make your spouse feel special.
6. Talk
on a regular basis.
7. Connect on values. Discuss
your spiritual beliefs and values. Use your spiritual principles to guide your
choices.
You
can have a fresh and interesting marriage. Use these seven tips for getting the
spark back to your marriage.
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