A broken relationship is not easy to get over. A simple fall out
with a friend or acquaintance, can give you a cold feeling. When that break up
is between you and your lover, or someone you were close to, your mind and
body feel as if you have been run over by a bus. Your life feels as if it has
been derailed.
This feeling of
having been cut adrift is extremely uncomfortable, unsettling and confidence
squashing. No matter how secure a person you are, when a relationship breaks
down you are affected in a huge way. Your emotions and equilibrium inevitably
become greatly impacted, and not in a nice way.
For some people the territory might be strange. For others a broken relationship can trigger a state of dejà vu. Past experience of broken relationships does not however make one's reactions and responses any better. It can in fact simply make matters a whole lot worse.
In many ways it is important to take a step back and logically assess what went wrong. This can be difficult to do when you are in a state of emotional turmoil, as your emotions tend to derail your ability to apply logic.
Some people repeatedly feel defeated
in the game of love as they would see themselves blame worthy where as others
hold the other party responsible.
Relationship is about two people, apportioning blame one sided is not appropriate.
Relationship is about two people, apportioning blame one sided is not appropriate.
You feel guilty when you are cut up
in blame and this emotion could be devastating. You
do need to know what went wrong in a relationship so as to ensure you don't end
up in a similar situation again in the future. But this does not need to
apportion blame and guilt.
These emotions are negative and do not assist you in moving forward. Rather, they hold you back, irrespective of whether they are directed inwardly at yourself or outwards at your ex partner or spouse.
I advise; to be able to get over a broken relationship and move on, you should concentrate more on controlling your thoughts. These will keep your emotions in check leading to a calm mood and logical thinking.
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