How
do you keep your partner interested in you for the rest of your life? You hook up
with the man or woman of your dream, you date, have minor issues as most
couples do, get married, before you know it everything becomes boring and
uninteresting and you might even be thinking of divorce. Should it be so?
Let’s
look it this way. People change most time; their expectations change, their
look change over time, that spark when you started might no longer be there.
Hooking
up with someone is the easiest part, how about staying in love? Falling in love
with your spouse over and over again is the most difficult part. It takes
falling in love with your spouse repeatedly to keep the spark alive.
Communication
gap is always the problem, but didn’t you see the red flag in the course of
your relationship. Some partners might not be good in communicating to each
other, this poses a problem. Why did you get married to him or her? What made
you want to spend the rest of your life with him or her?
These
questions come up when issues arise. Life does get in the way many times, but
didn’t you have challenges when you were falling in love? How did you overcome the
obstacles at the beginning of your relationship?
If
you want to keep the light burning, go back in time to your earliest memories
of your spouse and the reason you felt you were so much in love that you wanted
to spend the rest of your life with him or her. It doesn’t happen by chance; it
happens when two people are committed to each other and they love each other as
much now, as they did when they were dating.
Sure,
there are major problems now that were not there when you fell in love, but is
the chemistry still there? If you suddenly decide you are bored with your
spouse and you feel trapped by marriage, ask yourself what changed, and what
part did you play in those changes? And then get back to looking at your spouse
if he or she is the most important person in your life.
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