Hearing love get described as a game that gets played between two people happens so often, it sometimes becomes the way that people think it really is or at least the way that it has to be. This can lead to you having some pretty interesting ideas on the subject of love, some that may not be very beneficial to you at all. The good news is this. Love does not have to be a game after all.
When some describe it as being a game it can conjure up two images that are very opposite from one another. One image is that of two people having fun with each other and truly enjoying the company of each other. The other image is that of two people caught up in a maze of deceit and manipulation. It's the second image that seems to be most common and that is the one that does not have to be a part of your reality in the least bit.
There is a reason why love can seem like that.
That is because it's not truly love at all, but merely a poor attempt at making it so. Two people come together and either want to fall for each other or they have some other ulterior motive. And as a result, the games begin and in the end, someone or both of them are going to wind up getting hurt.
If you don't want it to be that way, here is some advice that you can take to heart:
1) Decide that you want the real thing and not a poor facsimile.
The one thing that seems to be so common amongst people, that get caught up in poor representations of what love is, is that they are so eager to have a loving relationship that they will put up with a bad situation just so that they can have one. If you decide that this is not going to be the way that it is for you, then you are already off to a good start.
2) Learn how to read through the words that a person uses.
Verbal communication tends to be what we focus on the most and yet in many ways. A person who has bad intentions or does not have the capability to be in a loving relationship can still have the skill to put together the right words at the right time. If you want to make sure that you don't fall into a bad situation, then you need to learn how to read through their words so that you can get a real picture of who they really are.
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