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H

ow's your love life?

Are you in the relationship you choose to be in, experiencing life's ups and downs within a warm bubble of togetherness?

Or is love a rather sore point for you at the moment?

If you fall into the last category, my heart goes out to you, and I promise you that in time your pain will heal. Actually, let me rephrase that: If your pain is being caused by a painful relationship, and YOU CHANGE THE CIRCUMSTANCES, your pain will heal. If however, you choose to remain in a toxic relationship, expect more pain. If you have chosen to walk away from a toxic relationship because you know you deserve better - congratulations! Even though it may hurt now, you will heal and one day, be ready for the healthy relationship you know you deserve.

Kind of like having an infection cut out - the operation hurts, but you know you'll be happier and healthier in the long run. And like any medical procedure, it takes courage to acknowledge there is a problem and seek treatment. Often relationships can be fixed with counselling, and I definitely recommend you try this before going under the knife (so to speak). There is so much value in a long-term committed relationship that has ridden the bumps - if it can be saved - save it. If it can't be saved, and you've tried everything - cut it out and move on.

Fix it or flick it! Life is too short for bad relationships. You deserve a happy life!

6 LOVE LIFE TIPS

1. Do not even ATTEMPT to have a relationship with someone else unless your relationship with yourself is tip top. You will just make two people unhappy. Work on yourself first if your self esteem could do with a boost.

2. Review entering into a relationship with anyone showing signs of narcissism. The chances of you 'fixing' them are slim to none. There are doctors for that type of thing.

3. If you're in a relationship that needs work admit it to yourself, talk about it with your partner, then fix it (be patient - fixing can take time).

4. If you're in a great relationship (yo! good for you!) keep it that way by appreciating what you love about your partner. Every day write down something you're grateful for about your partner. Better still, put it in a heartfelt letter and watch your relationship reach new heights! (Remember - what you focus on you get more of).