In today’s society,
many cross cultural relationships are springing up. This is inevitable! Some
older people see these relationships as something not workable. And this
mentality affects a stable couple. Their justification is drawn from the
cultures that may be difficult to understand or adapt to. This short important checklist
may determine if you are on the right path with your cross cultural
relationship.
Make sure you
share core values.
Most times
you see a person who see it normal taking advantage of others in a relationship
with someone who is committed in helping out. This type of relationship won’t
last because of this drastic core value difference. The most important thing is
that you share the same values in terms of how to treat people, making money
and handling money, how to raise children, that honesty and integrity are
important, etc. Your firm beliefs should be harmonious with those of your
partner.
Ask yourself
if you can live with it.
Though you
may have same core values; there will be some differences even if minor or
foreseeable ones. Ask yourself if you can live with them. There will definitely
be differences in culture and may be certain practices, and being honest with
yourself well ahead of time on whether or not you can live with those
differences is important.
Get to know
about the other’s culture through research beforehand. Feel free to discuss
each other’s culture. Ask your partner questions and be ready to answer when
asked.
You have to
talk often.
You must
talk. Any couple can have communication problems whether of the same culture or
cross cultural. Early communication problems in a relationship indicate a sign
of difficulty to come, however if you talk often with open minds and honest feelings
and views, a lot of problems would be averted. It will also help you sort out
your problems and further understand your partner and their culture.
Cross
cultural relationship can work. Most have worked. The most important is that the
two people in a relationship are ready to make it work and are open minded
about their traditions and beliefs, as well as the understanding of each other.
If they can always put their love for each other above prejudice and pride and remember
to communicate their feelings clearly then they would be added to testimonies
of cross cultural union.
To be
romantic, you can give them something from their culture as a gift, just to
show you appreciate who they are and their history. This act will surely bridge
your cultures together.
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