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t doesn't matter if you have been together for 3 months or 15 years, you can deepen the connection with your woman. There is no need to wait for your partner to make positive changes. By taking ownership of the relationship, you can renew your intimacy.
1. Love is not a declaration, it is an action. Demonstrate how you feel about your lover at least once every day. Connect even if you are temporarily in a different state or country. Telling someone you love them does not increase closeness unless the words are supported by actions. It's the little things that make a difference.
Leave a love post on your partner’s computer screen when you are out of town.
Before she goes out, make sure you tell her how beautiful she is. Welcome her with an embrace every time she comes in the door.
Fix the leak she has been complaining about in the kitchen sink.
2. Recognize her inner child. No matter how old we get; all of us remain kids at heart. We all have unmet needs from our childhood we are waiting to fill, as well as the joyous, spontaneous spirit. While spending time with your partner, try to identify their inner child and let her out to play. Find fun activities to do together that releases the inhibitions. Go for bike rides, visit the carnival. Any non-goal oriented activity that lets you be creative and spontaneous together. It is the perfect recipe for a lasting relationship.
3. Share bedtime. You can go to bed together at the same time, every night or most times. This is more important than you think. This doesn't mean someone sits in bed reading or watching the television. Shut off the phone, the night light and the TV. This is your time to talk, cuddle or have sex, if the mood strikes. Discuss your day, talk about your hopes and dreams. If you are away from each other, always talk on the phone as you lay in bed. It will go a long way in creating an intimate bond.
4. Be honest. If she does or says something you don't agree with, let her know. Pretending something isn't a problem is a recipe for disaster. You shouldn't make a mountain out of a mole hill, but definitely address problems before they cause resentment.
5. Create a no enemy zone. When the two of you have a disagreement remember you are not enemies. Stop for a moment and breathe. Think about what you love about her and why you are grateful to be her partner. Instead of feeling like a victim and arguing your case, listen to what she says and most importantly how she feels. You don't have to agree with her, but own up to your part in whatever upset her.
6. Keep in Touch. Stroke your partner as often as you can and encourage her to touch you. A hormone called oxytocin is increased with skin to skin contact. The natural chemical reduces stress, increases trust and raises sexual arousal. Touch results in a feeling of overall well-being. So touch well, and touch often.
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