After breakup Cure

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fter a breakup it can be hard to even think about love for a while. In fact, love may be something that seems impossible when your heart is broken and aching. But one day you will want to find love again.

When you are ready to find love again use the following tips to your advantage. They will ensure that you don't scare away potential love interests and they will get you back into the dating scene smoothly and effortlessly.

1. Don't Be the Past You

Of course you don't want to talk to your date about your ex and all the things they did to hurt your heart, you probably know that already, but I'm talking about leaving the past in the past for yourself.

Your ex may have caused you to feel as though you are not a good kisser, talker, or even lover, and you may be holding those beliefs inside your head and becoming anxious over them. Try to remember that your past is just your past and you are not that person any longer. You can be a good kisser, talker, or lover now and you don't have to tell yourself otherwise. And for the most part, anything your ex told you was out of spite or anger - it doesn't mean that what they said was true.

2. Don't Be Needy

If you want to find love again and you are starting to feel that it is a mission of yours, then you will start to come across as being needy, and that's not good. That will push (scare) away any potential love interests and cause you to become even needier when they run away. Stay cool. Stay relaxed. And let love find you!

3. Don't Find Love in Your Ex if It's Not There

Sometimes after a breakup you can start to miss your ex and remember the good times and traits your ex had. You may forget about all the bad times you had together and how your ex didn't treat you well in your relationship. This happens all the time.

Let me save you the double heartache with your ex. You will end up back together. It will be good for a while. And then you WILL break up again. Millions of people do it every day! It doesn't work if the issues that were there before are still there, and if you haven't fixed the issues then they WILL still be there.

As hard as it may be, find love with someone new. Someone who doesn't have the issues your ex did. The chances of you finding love that will last are much higher.

4. Don't Look For Someone like Your Ex

If you are looking for someone who talked to you in that baby voice you liked or understood you when you 'gave them a look' then you may be setting yourself up for disappointment.

Your ex and you had a unique bond, one that you will probably not find with someone else. That's why it was unique! They may have gotten you on a level that no one else can, but that doesn't mean that someone else can't get you on an even better level! Don't expect certain things when you want to find love or you may be setting someone new up for failure.

5. Don't Expect To Find Love

If you set yourself up with high expectations of finding love right now, because you want it, then you may get let down and start to get angry, hurt, or even depressed.

Love is something that is going to come when you are ready, not when you demand it. Expectations can often result in disappointment, and disappointment can result in giving up or heading back to your ex. Both of those situations would not be good.

So let love come to you and don't put a time-line on it! Enjoy each and every day whether you have found love or not. You will be happier because of it!

Is There Really a Remedy for a Broken Heart?

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reak up pain in my opinion is the flip side to one of life's most powerful and complex forces. Read on not only for my explanation but to find out that there is life after a painful split.

Although no one wants to experience the pain that comes with a break up, the reason we feel pain in the first place is because the tremendous sense of loss that comes upon us at the point of realization that it's over.

Break up pain- proof that you have the capacity to love.

One way to look at break up pain is to view it as a barometer of exactly how much we loved someone. In a sense, the pain we experience when we part with someone we really care for, can be viewed as proof that what we in fact felt for that person was love. That pain is also proof that you have the capacity to love and, more importantly to love again.

Not many people are alone in this regard. Everyone has their own unique story of a love lost that resides somewhere in a very painful place in their hearts and minds.

Break up pain is unique in that not many things in life that we experience can be compared to it. Other than the death of a loved one, break up pain stands alone as the singular most painful experience that we will ever have in life. How many things in life is said to cause so much pain to have you literally hold up, deeply depressed in your room feeling as though there is nothing to live for, sleeping 18 or more hours a day, not bathing or eating?

That's not only break up pain but again, it's the mysterious power of love. Or in other words, two sides of the same coin.

Getting over break up pain takes time.

There are no easy solutions or remedy to a broken heart that I can advise only just to say, if you were ever able to open your heart and fully love someone so deeply once, you certainly should be able to do it again.

If necessary, you'll have to get over any fear of ever being hurt again. This is something that you will definitely need to do if you are ever going to love again. You have to move on. 

When You Aren't Giving Your Woman Orgasms During Sex, What to Do! (Mature Minds Only)

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ut, unlike most men (who are happy to get any old sex) -- women tend to have higher standards in the bedroom. Said differently, women are only interested in outstanding sex, where they have mind-blowing ORGASMS.

The trouble is, many men are clueless when it comes to understanding a woman's needs in the bedroom and they have no real knowledge about FEMALE ORGASMS.

Make sure you are several steps ahead of the 'average man' by reading this...

10 Things You Must Do When You Aren't Giving Your Woman Orgasms during Sex

1. Do not make a big deal out of it. If you make a big deal out of the fact that you are not giving your woman orgasms you may ruin your own SEXUAL CONFIDENCE and your woman's. 'YES' -- women can get PERFORMANCE ANXIETY too.

2. Know that if your woman has a brain and a vagina, she has everything she needs to have an ORGASM. In other words -- know that the problem you have (not giving her orgasms) is not permanent.

3. Change your STRATEGY. Clearly what you are doing in the bedroom with your woman is not working well -- so you must change your strategy. To keep doing the same things over and over again and expect a different result will not work

4. Do not make your woman focus on having an orgasm. Instead, help her to RELAX and ENJOY everything that you share with her in the bedroom, from start to finish. If you only focus on her orgasm, she may get the dreaded performance anxiety.

5. Give her plenty of FOREPLAY before intercourse.

6. Try getting her so turned on that she BEGS YOU TO TOUCH HER. Do this by giving her a massage and touching every part of her body except for her clitoris and vagina. In other words -- TEASE her until she feels like she is going to explode.

7. TALK DIRTY to her. For a woman, her most powerful sexual organ is not her VAGINA -- it's her MIND. During sex you must stimulate your woman's mind with dirty talk. Dirty talk can be the difference between lame sex and giving her 5 ORGASMS. Seriously -- you have to talk dirty in the bedroom.

8. Stop asking her if she has climaxed. It's a turn off for every woman. HINT -- she just expects you to know.

Walk Together

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t sounds silly, doesn't it? We should all know how to take a romantic walk. It is just one leg in front of the other. Yet for many of us we have lost the art of taking time together. With our busy lives we have forgotten what it is to build lasting memories, one step at a time. So let's talk about some easy ways you can make your walks together not only more romantic, but also ones that will help build a lifelong bond.

Pitch the cell phone:
Devote some time with little to no distractions. Yep, this means turning off the cell phone. We always think it will be little bother until it interrupts a great conversation. Getting back on track after a disruption is always difficult. So make sure you keep interruptions to a minimum. This walk is about the two of you.

Get to your neutral place:
Make sure that the air is cleared before you go on your walk. A lot of the time we go on walks or drives with irritations in our heart. What a mood killer. So make sure you keep a short account with your spouse. Don't think that a walk by itself is a cure all. Being able to open up, with no defensiveness, and having time to do so, that is the magic of a walk. So talk things out, compromise where you need to, and make sure things are great before you schedule a romantic walk.

Throw out the Complaining:
Remember to leave most complaining at the door. Let's face it; we all love to complain. We complain about the President, the weather, the job, and the traffic. If we have to deal with it, we complain about it. And while this may build a bond around common complaints, it does not build romantic bonds. Keep in mind, this does not mean that you cannot talk about the big things that are going on in the world, but if that is all you talk about, the romance will only go so far. So keep the complaining to a minimum.

Engage your senses:
Make sure to comment on the weather. I know it sounds silly, but a lot what you are doing is building memories. Take in the smell of the leaves, the crispness of the air, or the sun as it warms your skin. Take time to enjoy it with your partner. The more you engage your five senses the more you will remember the walk. So slow down and engage with what is going on around you.

Talk about the big things:
Take some time to wax philosophical. Taking time to talk about the really big things gives a feeling of unlimited possibilities. So talk about the nature of the universe, the mysteries of falling in love, or the wonders of nature. Make sure this is a no judgment zone. No one is right or wrong, it is a place to be open and let your mind expand. If you can be curious openly with your mate, it will engender trust and open the door for further communication.

As far as it depends on you, make it a pleasant experience. Try not to pick on each other. Be open, be honest, and be curious. Let them know that you love them and want to know everything about them, even their craziest thought. This is a time for each of you to know and be known.

Enjoy your time together!

Stop Nagging in Your Relationship

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agging has to be the most annoying habits in any relationship. And it appears most of the culprits are women. If you are guilty of nagging, do not let this unfortunate behaviour put a wedge between you and your partner. Here are few tips to help you stop being a nag.

1) Get a life

You heard me right. If you have so much time to nag your partner, then it means you don’t have a focus. Ask yourself questions such as these: what are my goals, have I achieved them? If not, how do I achieve them? Does my partner owe me anything? How can I make him happy? How can I be more useful? If you ask yourself the right questions, you'll find the answers to having a life whilst being in a relationship. Simply put, if you have important and exciting things to do, you won't have the time to be a nag.

2) Do not try to change your partner.

The truth of the matter is that you cannot change a person. You may influence change but at the end of the day, it's up to the person to change. So if you nag in the hope that your partner will change, unfortunately it will most likely just annoy them. The only person you can change is yourself. You may want to change how you view the situations where you find yourself nagging. You may find that it's actually you who has the problem, not your partner. Live and let live.

3) Remember the important stuff

If you love your partner, then being with them should be the most important thing. No one is perfect, so cut them some slack. I'm sure everybody including you, has an annoying habit or two. Would you rather lose your partner over socks lying on the floor or would you just pick them up if it's that important to you and still have the love of your life? Your choice!

4) Practice empathy

How would you like it if the tables were turned? If you were to watch yourself on video nagging, would you like it? Just try think of how your partner feels each time you nag. Would you blame him if he started dreading coming home to you? So each time you catch yourself nagging, just listen to yourself and stop, bearing in mind how your partner may feel.

How to Resuscitate a Dead Relationship

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hat Are the Keys to a Healthy Relationship?

If you are like most people, then you have had someone dump you, or you may have dumped someone else during your lifetime. "Breaking up is hard to do," as Neil Sedaka once said, and it is something that you really don't want to experience too many times in your life. But if you are trying to begin making up in a relationship or getting your ex back, then you actually have some work to do.

What Steps Should You Take?

Perhaps the most important step is to really think about why you broke up. If it has been a while since this happened, you might be able to think about it clearer without so much emotion. But if the breakup happened recently, you will need to keep reminding yourself that being level-headed is a good place to start.

Getting your ex back isn't something that can be done overnight. It probably took you two a long time to drift apart and problems were probably creeping up all the time, so be sure that whatever plan you come up with allows for a little patience. By taking your time, you will be more likely to get the results that you want. In other words, making up in a relationship isn't something that can be done quickly.

How Should You Approach Creating a Healthier Relationship?

After you have determined what happened and what broke you up in the first place, then you can start making up in a relationship by building communication. Getting your ex back is always much easier when you have friendly conversations that are not full of emotion. By attempting to start the relationship all over again, on friendly terms, you might have better luck. In the meantime, it will build confidence in both of you.

A healthier relationship is also built on trust. That means that you need to speak in a way that is not confrontational, not full of accusations, and not meant to blame the other person. Whatever has happened between the two of you must be water under the bridge and you must be ready to start over. If not, it won't work.

Physical Health

If there is one thing that is often missing from relationships these days, it is the personal health and fitness of both individuals. The truth is that you can't begin making up in a relationship until you feel good about yourself, and that involves getting fit and healthy. When you start making attempts at getting your ex back, you will find that they pay a lot more attention to you if you are healthier and appear to be more fit. In fact, if you can work fitness into your new relationship, you will both benefit in the long run.

Is Getting Your Ex Back Even Possible?

While some people will tell you that getting your ex back are not possible, even more will tell you that it isn't the right thing to do. Making up in a relationship isn't always in the best interest of both of you, especially when one or both of you have issues like some unresolved psychological issues. Even though some relationships may not be redeemed but many times, even the unhealthiest relationship can be saved and made better when both people are interested in its success.

It is also important to remember that making up in a relationship is something that must be two-sided. Although you may be the one that makes the initial attempt, you should hope that eventually your partner will be a willing partner. A good relationship is built on the equal efforts of both parties.

Do You Notice these? He May Have Fallen in Love!

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he path to falling in love is laden with danger, hidden pitfalls and unexpected turns but you do not want all this uncertainty and suspense. You want some guidelines to help you to navigate this path to love so that you don't waste time with unresponsive, going-nowhere guys. You want to know how men show they are in love with you so that you can invest your energies in a man who are 'feeling you'. What are the ways men show they are in love with you?

They include you in their future. A man who is in love with you will see you in his future and will thus include you in his future plans or dreams. When he talks about his future does he include you in that future? When he makes plans for the holidays or for his friend's wedding or for the seasons celebrations...are you part of those plans? If he has invited you or assumes that you will be there with him then he is showing you that he is in love with you. If on the other hand he does not love you, then he will not discuss the future with you or when he does discuss the future you are not a part of it. It's him and his friends or family doing this or the other activity with no mention of you. You may be falling in love with him but the feelings are not reciprocated!

They try to fix your problems. A man who is in love with you will want to make you as comfortable as possible and so he will always want to fix your problems. And not just the usual guy stuff but even the more girly stuff that would be usually out of his depth. His help may sometimes irritate you as men and women tackle emotional problems different. So if he is trying to help you out with some other emotional issue then he must care deeply for you and that's how he expresses it as he is clearly out of his comfort zone.

They let you see the range of their feelings. A man who is in love with you will not be able to hide parts of him from you. His love for you makes him open up to you and he will let you see him frustrated, angry, happy, vulnerable etc. If on the other hand he only shows you his happy side or his frustrated side then there is something wrong with him or with the relationship. This is a warning sign to you that you need to pay close attention to this man and this relationship so that you understand what is going on as something isn't quite right here.

They are with you in sickness and in health. A man who is in love with you will not abandon you when you are unwell or depressed. If he is in love with you then he will be a part of your life in good times and in bad ones. If he vanishes from your life when you are sick but bounces back when you are well...then he is not in love with you. He may be in-like with you but not in love with you.

They are faithful and true to you. A man who is in love with you will be himself with you and he will be focused on you. He will thus be emotionally faithful to you and his desire will be for an exclusive relationship with you. If he still wants to play the field then he may be in-like with you but not in love with you.

He speaks his love language to you. A man who is in love with you will show you by doing for you that which would make him feel loved. He will assume that your love language is the same as his love language. So look out for his words of affirmation or for gifts or him doing things for you or him spending quality time with you or him touching you physically. There may be a mismatch with your love language so don't always expect him to love you in the ways that you would like but watch to see if he is loving you in the way that he knows. Sometimes you may be blinded by our expectations but you need to lay those aside and see him and what it is that he is doing for you.

A man who is falling in love with you will display this love in the way they act towards you. The signs are not all inclusive as each man has a different love language, have been socialized differently; and may have been shaped by previous girlfriends etc. So each man is different in how he displays his love for you.