Why he May Pull Away

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Are you unknowingly driving him away?

Do you know your idle talk might be driving your potential husband away?

Men base a future wife on the value to enhance his life. Women have a tendency to base a husband on how good of a provider and protector he might be.

Getting these signals messed up can leave you alone once again. You may think you are not judging a man on those criteria but chances are your talk implies it.

When we meet a potential lover for the first time there can be a physical attraction on one or both parties. Beyond the physical there needs to be something substantial to go further than the first date or so. Does this sound familiar? Are you not making it past the first few dates with guys you think are real catches?

Are your questions all wrong?

Perhaps your questions to make conversation are all wrong, that would be such a shame. I know you can't sit there in dead silence hoping that he will keep the dialogue going. Besides if you just sit there and not contributing he might feel you are not interested in him, shy or bored.

We all know guys like to flaunt and exaggerate who they are and what they own. They are sort of like the animal species, such as the male birds with their fancy plume of feathers. They strut around trying to attract a female bird to mate with. Get the connection with the man and his car. We should acknowledge the car as being a fine machine as the man is proud of it, but never let it be such a huge part of your attraction to him. It could also backfire on you, as he might read it as you are only interested in his money.

Men think women are complicated! Surprisingly a man can be madly in love with a woman but never want to marry her. If a man won't commit to marriage it means he may leave when he finally figures out why he can't marry you. Will it be when he finds someone else that fits the total picture of what he is looking for in a wife?

Be careful with your conversations with a man you have just started to get to know. If he feels he is being interrogated with questions that imply if he is capable of financially able to take care of you, he might be gone in a flash. Yes, maybe, even if he is genuinely attracted to you.

Don't waste years of your life on the wrong man or not understanding why men won't commit to marriage.

Ways of Finding True Love

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Have you been feeling your one true love will never appear? Are you reading relationship books which list from A-Z how to find your love match?

So many of us are searching for our one true love... the story book romance, but do not really understand a few important factors. Whether you believe this or not, the Law of Attraction is real. This law extends to anything and everything in your life. You might be asking yourself how do I start this?

The number one key to finding true love naturally is to love yourself first. If you love yourself unconditionally you will attract someone who truly loves you. Heal your old wounds and release past relationship pains and forgive yourself and others who have caused you pain. Things may have happened for reasons.

While you are spending time alone and connecting to a higher source through relaxation or meditation it is also imperative to change your thought process. Your thoughts are extremely powerful. What you think is what you create for yourself on every level. For example if you think that men/woman are cheaters, you will attract a person who will cheat on you. If you are not ready for a commitment, you will attract others who cannot commit or are married. In all actuality, life is an illusion because our vision is what we see and no two people are alike.

It is time to throw out all the old "dating rules." Who decided what is right for dating? So many people are so confused and why? Because there aren't two people alike.  Don’t allow others to judge you. Life is about following your heart and not your head! All your answers lie within; if it feels right then go for it. Your heart is your true guide. Your heart does not lie to you, deceive you, or is jealous of you. Your heart center are pure answers given to you which leads you everywhere you need to be and advises you on your next move. Be quiet to connect within and ask and then listen for the answers to receive.

Last, but not least is universal timing. When you change your thoughts to become the positive person you were always meant to be, the Universe will bring your true love to thee in the right time. Everything in life is based on timing. An example of timing we can all relate to is long lines at Super stores. Instead of being in a hurry, look at the positive aspect of that line. You are not meant to be where you are headed just yet. Trust that you are always protected and always guided. It is possible you are being saved from misfortune or maybe you are being kept from being involved in an accident. It is possible there is some important information you need to hear, or someone you are supposed to meet. Just maybe your true love is standing in line right behind you. The main point here is to start releasing control and trusting that someone has your best interests at heart.

Relax; understand timing and unconditional love and I promise you your world will completely change. Practice these few steps while being more aware of what is going on around you and you can prove this to yourself. 

How to Win Her Heart through Better Conversations

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I think we all know that most women would love it if their man was to work on being able to have better conversation and communication in their relationship. And I think we also know that most men are a little bit too stubborn to admit that they might need to put some work in when it comes to being able to have better conversations with their woman. You don't want to allow that stubborn streak to end up making you feel like you don't need to work on bridging any communication gap that you might have.

Here is some advice that should guide you if you want to be able to have better conversations with the woman you are dating:

1) Any conversation that you have with your girl should be one where you are doing just as much listening as you are talking.

Some guys think that talking more often to their girl means that they should do all of the talking and none of the listening and all I can say is, that's not going to work out too well. If you want to make her happy and you want to strengthen up your relationship, then you need to get good at listening just as much as you need to get good at making small talk with her. More than anything else, showing her that you are willing to listen to the things that she has to say is a good way to let her know that you are definitely serious about her. That's what you really want her to see, so go ahead and do some listening.

2) It's okay to add some fluff into the conversation if you have to.

You can't always go deep and you don't always have to. Like I said, most of what your girl wants is to see that you are at least willing to make the effort and sometimes adding in a little bit of fluff into the conversation will do just that. You may want to get serious with her once in a while, but not every conversation has to be some deep psycho analysis of where you and her are going. You can lighten things up once in a while.

3) Take what you learn about her and act on it.

The best way to show your girl that you are actually paying attention to what she has to say is to take what she tells you and what you learn about her and do something with that information. For example, if you find out that she is an art lover and you really never knew that about her before, why not plan some weekend getaway to an art gallery? Doing little things like this helps you to gain some ground with her because she knows that you are not just letting her words go in one ear and out the other one. She will know that you are actually paying attention to what it is that she has to say to you.

A Casual Relationship Can Turn Serious.

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You meet someone and you hope for the best. If it doesn't work out then walk away. It sounds so simple but love is never meant to be that way. Sometimes you have to walk through a lot of heartaches before you will meet that one person who will love you like crazy. Finding someone is not easy because of all the complexities that come with dating. It doesn't matter how many times you got hurt, the most important thing is you picked up some valuable lessons and then you move on. The beginning stage of any relationship can be ambiguous especially if you don't have any idea whether you and your partner are on the same page. You've been seeing someone and you seem to get along well but can a casual relationship turn serious? The answer is YES. How will you know if a guy wants your relationship to be for keep?

1.) He Tells You Everything

If you've been dating then you know that it's often difficult to get a man to open up. They guard their emotions and secrets so well and it sure drives women crazy. If you've been dating for a while now and all you know is his job, Facebook status and what he likes in bed then don't expect the relationship to blossom into something deeper. When a guy sees you as a potential life partner, he is going to tell you everything including his childhood. If he starts telling you about his dreams, fears, plans for the future, past relationships and his family, it means your relationship has turned serious.

2.) He introduces you to relatives.

Your relationship is on a serious track if he has introduced you to his family and extended family. This simply means that he wants them to know that you two are exclusive.

3.) You two are comfortable doing nothing

When all the sensational feelings go away and you two still want to hang around, that's the time you know that the relationship is getting serious. The first few dates are all about getting to know each other, trying to impress each other. If you have made it past this stage it means you have established a deep connection and the relationship is for keeps. You are completely comfortable spending a quite time together and you are not dying to impress each other. When you have reached this stage it means that you both have let your guards down.

4.) The future revolves around you

How can a casual relationship turn serious? If your man keeps talking about your life together, his plans and if he starts to make more intelligent decisions it means that he definitely sees you in his future.

Is he Commitment-Phobic? Find Out

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You've been dating this guy who is obviously smitten with you, you have that undeniable chemistry and you enjoy doing things together but the problem is you can't get him to commit to a relationship. You start wondering why he hasn't introduced you as his girlfriend or worst he hasn't introduced you to anyone in his circle. There is only one thing I can think of right now, he is commitment-phobic.

The term "commitment phobia" is not a joke; there are actually people who are so terrified in committing themselves to a relationship. The moment they feel that it's starting to get a little serious, they bail out. That's usually the reason why he hasn't been calling you or he's avoiding that dreaded question "where do we stand in our relationship?"

As unfortunate as this can be; your situation is not hopeless. No, it's definitely not the end of the road for you. Don't just give up on the man who swept you off your feet without doing something. Learning how to make your man commit is no easy task but it's not a rocket science either. It's just a matter of doing things right and of course you need perfect timing. The solutions are pretty simple. Read the following tips below on how you can get a guy commit:

1.) Make him feel special and let him know that you love him for who he really is and not for who you want him to become. This is a very common mistake that most women make .We treat our men as projects and we have this stern idea in our heads on how we want the relationship to be, how we want to be treated and even worst on how we want our man to behave. It's ok to live by certain standards and I am not advising you to settle for less than what you deserve but at least be realistic. That dreamy guy you see in the movies is not real! Don't get into a relationship with a man hoping that he will change for you. You'll end up being disappointed in the end and that leaves you both frustrated. Love the person for who they are and that's all there is to it.

2.) Don't ever make the guy feel that once you become official that means saying goodbye to his beloved freedom. His world does not need to revolve around you now that you are exclusively dating. Let him enjoy his time with his friends and don't gang up on him if he plays Call of Duty for hours. As long as he's not taking you for granted you shouldn't try to jump on him for having fun once in a while outside your relationship. And please don't act like the jealous girlfriend all the time. Men find it cute when their girl gets a little jealous sometimes but do not overdo it. Don't beg for his Facebook password! Bottom line is, make sure you make your man feel that he can keep his freedom at a reasonable degree.

3.) Don't act desperate.  You don't need to scare him away! Don't talk about your dream wedding when you've only been dating for a couple of weeks. In other words, don't jump the gun if you really want to get him to commit to a relationship!

Ways You Can Make Your Man Stick to You

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If you want a man to stay in your life, you have to know what keeps him happy. There is a ton of information written about this topic and it may get confusing because some of them say that you have to treat a man like a king while others advice women to be strong-willed and make the man feel that they are the boss. It's actually pretty straightforward; respect your man without being a doormat.

There are many ways on how to keep a man happy but let's not complicate things here. There are simple but foolproof ways on how you can make your boyfriend or husband grinning with happiness at the very thought of you.

1.) Respect his Privacy.

Just because he is committed to you it doesn't mean that you can demand for his Facebook and e-mail password. And please don't think that you can tinker with his phone and scan his contacts and messages. If he allows you to have access to his passwords, fine, but demand them in a way that shows that you don’t trust him. Every adult has the right to privacy and if you trust your man, why do you need all his passwords? The bottom line is if you can't trust the guy then walk away from him. You're saving yourself and your partner from the horrors of endless fights and confrontations.

If you are in a mature, loving relationship and your partner does not give you any reason to distrust him then you shouldn't check all the messages and drive yourself crazy by snooping in his business. If you respect your man's privacy, he would respect yours too.

2.) Cook for him.

The best way to a man's heart is through his stomach. It's a cliché; check around you can see its truthfulness. Cooking is a glorified skill that you have to learn. No buts no ifs! As simple or as shallow as it may sound, cooking for a guy fulfils a basic human need and it also sparks off feelings about being cared for. Find out about your man's favourite dishes and if you must, get the recipes from his mom or grandma. Give him a surprise when he comes home from work. He's going to love you for this!

3.) Be a sex kitten.

I think this is a no brainer. Pleasing a man in bed is almost a guarantee that he is going to stick around, of course with the added benefits that are mentioned above. Unleash your wild side in the bedroom whether it entails you to wear costumes or changing your sex styles. Wear sexy lingerie and get a bikini. This will definitely make you feel good about your body. Also, don't always wait for him to make the first move. It wouldn't hurt if you take the lead sometimes. Take charge, woman!

4.) Compliment him.

You think women are the only creatures who love to be complimented? Well, think again! Men are no different and if you are able to make your boyfriend or husband feel good about himself, then you clearly know how to keep a guy happy. No matter how small the compliment is (he has a great smile, gorgeous eyes, or how he looks extra handsome in that blue shirt), your man will appreciate it. Just be sincere every time you praise him. If you see something you don't like, just don't say anything. You don't have to fake it and lie to him.

5.) Don't ever emasculate your man especially in front of his friends.

Men don’t like being humiliated and berated. Never ever make a man feel less like a man even when he's done something wrong. Don't put him down when he makes wrong choices. Hitting below the belt is a definite no-no!

Staying in Love

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What are the ways to fall in love and stay in love? Start today with these ten direct and established things you can do to improve the dynamics of your intimate relationship. Isn't it time you start feeling passionate about your partner to help your relationship?

1. Show your love and appreciation. You show your partner you care when you demonstrate that you adore and cherish them. Gifts! Small remembrances! Doing a small job for them! Don't assume they remember from a few years ago what you said or did. Be creative, thoughtful, and bold for increased sexual intimacy.

2. Live in the moment, be present. Let your soul soar with what makes you happy, and laugh, enjoy pleasure, don't take time for granted. Make more time to enjoy your vibrant energy through doing what you love, and then enjoy the moments of quiet, profound peace inside afterwards. Many call this mindfulness. Enhance your marriage, and remember you can also be more present with yourself, as an adult.

3. Enjoy memories. Without believing you have to live in the past, reflect on the fun, joyful memories that have been created. Our feelings are connected with our thoughts, so when you remember the good times, the feelings can be recreated in our mind and body that we had with the experience.

4. Think about the future and offer your dreams. When you have a purpose that you love, don't you have more energy? Set some goals, dreams, and hopes up so you can both work towards them. This can keep you from feeling stuck, unmotivated, and bland. Your heart, what you love, is a powerful motivator!

5. Love your partner for who THEY are. In the passionate stages of intimacy, didn't we all believe the high energy would never stop? Then the differences began to emerge, and our romantic image of the other fades a bit. Remember to make a list of the many things (start with 50 and try for 100!) that are wonderful, great, and lovable in your mate, and then show the list to them!

6. Try new things. We tend to love new adventures and experiences because we all love to expand our knowledge, skills, and capabilities. Confront the ruts that couples can get in to by learning something new. What about unusual classes, experiences, or trips?

7. Remember to have FUN. How do you like to laugh together? Can you find the humour in comedy clubs, funny books you read together, or new experiences? We all tend to get too serious as the years go on. What lightens you up? In couples counselling, learn how increasing the oxygen in your body can lead to better sex

 8. Find projects to work on together. When you become a team around some shared values, you can increase sexual intimacy and a bond that is very powerful. Work together on an important goal and you will see the greatness in each other. Do you like helping your community, political movements, etc.

9. Don't forget what really matters. The well being of yourself, and the health of your intimate relationship, are what is important. The little voice inside us all may want us to go for instant gratification, yet try to remember what you found important as you age. What does long-term loyalty mean to you and your family? Look for ways that give you excitement, caring and loving.

10. Be of service, and your heart will grow. Uncover ways, where you give to, care, and serve your intimate partner, instead of asking them to prop you up the way a parent would. They are not your parent, and you are not a child, so learn ways to love your partner by giving caring attention TO THEM for who they are.