APPRECIATION IS A MARITAL TOOL

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By Chukwuneta Obiageli

Appreciate your partner no matter how little their effort to make you happy!

When I came across a friend’s ‘black berry’ status update some time back, I wasted no time in telling her that she had made my day with such moving tribute to her husband (whose birthday was on that day).The words may seem simple but the message is powerful and I quote ‘’ Happy birthday to the man, that makes my smile his priority –may you know no sorrow’’. This can only come from a woman that appreciates her blessing .I teach women this (appreciation) a lot. Go out of your way to appreciate your man’s efforts (no matter how little) towards your happiness. Any man you praise for the little favours he shows you -will double his efforts next time. It is most discouraging when someone begins to feel that whatever he does for you is like pouring water into a basket.

Some people have unbearable ‘sense of entitlement’- that is, an attitude that whatever someone does for them is their right and such hardly (if ever) elicits a heartfelt ‘thank you’ from them. It’s a terrible attitude and the worst thing that can happen to anybody is when someone that makes your smile his/her priority simply stops ‘trying’ because you don’t seem to appreciate their efforts towards you. Never push a caring person to the point where he/she feels unappreciated. You may not be able to undo the damage- if they ever decide to stop bothering about you. I am yet to see someone who truly feels appreciated -stop making efforts. Whoever you appreciate will most likely double his efforts in making your smile his or her priority. 

Let me also emphasize that, it is actually a man who knows his onions that can elicit this level (as quoted above) of appreciation from his woman. A good deed precedes appreciation-majorly. Your woman cannot appreciate you out of the blues, if you have been most irresponsible in your obligations (economic, emotional, sexual, etc.) towards her.

In the words of my good friend (JACOB OSAGIE) ‘’Many ladies do not know that appreciation enslaves a man. Appreciation is priceless but difficult to give out’’