If You Neglect These Strategies He Would Hide Many Things

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We've always known that men are wired differently. Women love the pep talk; men don't, so don't expect the guy you are currently seeing to tell you what went down with him and his ex-girlfriend. It’s right to ask questions on what you don’t understand to make someone open up. See, it doesn't work like that in a man's world. There are certain things you have to follow on how to get a man to open up.

1.) Know what questions to ask and what buttons to press. It sounds simple but for some reason, women tend to mess this up all the time. They get too excited in getting to know the person that they ask "10th date" questions on the first date. Why can you not be content in asking him about his job or how many siblings he has. Don't be such in a rush to gather tons of personal information about him. When it comes to past relationships, plans for the future, etc unless a man goes into that direction, do not go there. In other words, wait for the man to start asking those questions. Be patient, he will open up once he lets you in completely.

2.) Believe it or not, men are also afraid of rejection and the last thing they want is for women to be judgmental and critical of them. They have that fear that if they open up; they are going to get laughed at or won’t be found as sexy or masculine anymore. It's very critical for a woman to know that a man's ego is more fragile than hers and this is especially true when a man is in a relationship.

When a guy is in an intimate relationship, he tends to be more vulnerable because he is letting his guards down. Make your partner feel that you are not going to judge him or look at him any differently once he opens up to you. If you make him feel otherwise, don't expect him to talk. Allow your man to say what's on his mind freely. Learn how to listen and make sure he knows that you are there for him no matter what.

One very important thing on how to get a man to open up is to realize that men need to establish an emotional connection before they open up. Just be patient and stop bombarding him with crazy questions! Also, once he finally opens up, try your very best not to blurt out your point of view with something like "OH you did that?" or "That is so wrong". If you are going to be all judgmental, don't expect your man to ever talk about his past or fears.

3.) Take the initiative and open up first. A relationship is a two-way street which means that you can't really expect your partner to open up if you haven't done it yourself. Show your man that you have as much trust in him as he has in you. Every person has a "can of worms". We all have our own share of fears, problems and a not-so-good past. A lot of men fear that if they share too much of the past they are not so proud of, women would walk away. Make your man feel that this is not the case and that you care about him enough for you to understand and accept him with whatever indiscretions he did a long time ago. Once he starts talking, listen and say something encouraging like "that's all in the past now" or "that's not as bad as it sounds".

Strengthen Your Relationship

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We hear a lot about ensuring that things are sustainable. It's a buzzword these days. There's sustainable energy, sustainable business practices, sustainable everything. In the business arena sustainability is a key concern. But you do not tend to hear very much about relationship sustainability.

How likely is your relationship to be happy and sustainable in the long term? Do you have what might be termed a mature relationship or one that is less well thought out? How well do you deal with the lumps and bumps in your relationship? Do you pull together or rather do you fall apart? Do you hide your face or turn the other way when things aren't going so well?

Some relationships just seem to bring out the worst in people whilst others bring out the best in them. Often a relationship makes sense on paper but it turns out to be too wearying upon one's emotions. It's easy to spend far too many years thinking things like "Once we get over this point" or "Once the kids are in higher institution" or "Once we get more stable financially".

We find ourselves making excuses for the status of our relationships. We perhaps don't put enough time and effort into our relationships. We might approach our relationship with a bad attitude.

From time to time we are probably all a little guilty in this respect. That's normal. But if this is how it is for the majority of the time then something is amiss. The balance has tipped and what might have been a sustainable relationship becomes an intolerable relationship.

A good relationship requires thought and consideration. If you do not prioritize and think about your relationship in the right manner then it will not proceed in the way that you desire. Good relationships require a great deal of respect.

If you feel the need to re-generate the love in your relationship and your partner is of the same view, it is an easier task than you might think. In many ways all you need to do is put your heads together and think about how you would like to approach your relationship from now on.

Spend some time recalling the things that brought you together and what you used to love about each other. Spend time together doing things that you both love to do. Needless to say, quit spending time chewing on the things that irritate you; put up or shut up!

Invisible Sign that Will Never Fail That He or She is The One

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Who else is in a relationship, and is confused about what it means? Is it the real deal? Have I met my soul mate? Or am I just spinning my wheels and wasting my time on yet another relationship that's NOT going to work out? The truth is, while there are millions of women (and many men as well!) asking this exact question every day of every week of EVERY year... the answer is surprisingly simple to spot for most.

As a writer, love intuitive and relationship, the secret to understanding true love is often as much about YOU, he/her. Each of us has unique, hidden or "invisible" forces that work relentlessly in our relationship.

There are things we need to know in our relationship, the needs and desires that each partner wants are very different.

This leads to what I refer to as an "imbalance in emotional equilibrium", and mismatched meanings that WON'T make marriage (or any relationship) happy for long.

For example:

You can be in love with someone, deeply, passionately and with the full of your emotional intensity, and yet never really be happy, IF that person's underlying emotional needs are much different than your own.

A woman whose core values and who fundamentally craves security, family and commitment often falls in love with men whose core values are fun, freedom and financial focus.

No matter how strong you may feel for another... unless there is a core shift in the underlying emotional energy in one partner or the other (or ideally both) the relationship will invariably NOT work out.

The STATISTICS bear this out, as well.

How? Because 65% of all relationships end in divorce. It's not that the couples never were in love... it's that they have different emotional energy.

As an emotional intuitive person, this underlying invisible "force" is akin to your AURA.

You can change it with practice... but most of us never will. We are who we are. And because of that, no matter how powerful or persuasive the fleeting love you feel for someone in the beginning feels, in the long haul... picking partners that DON'T match your map of meaning are destined to fail.

The easiest way to find out if he's the one early on in the relationship... BEFORE you get hurt?

I know this is going to sound too new age and controversial for many of you, but trusting your intuition, and listening to the "direction" that the Universe wants you to follow is the real key to authentic love, happiness and bliss. Each of us comes into the world with a specifics set of plans, a PURPOSE and the passion to pursue our highest calling. Far too many of us, especially WOMEN... listen to our heads, rather than our hearts, when it comes to meeting our "match" and we give up far too much when we make a mistake.

I believe making the invisible, "visible" is the key to hooking up with the right one.

Joseph Yobo and His Queen, Adaeze

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Married January 1, 2010

Cross-Cultural Romance Guide

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There has been a famous line which went around that says, "Love knows no boundaries". This tells all humankind that love is such a strong force that even having different cultures cannot shake it and put it down so easily. But I'm not saying that having a relationship with a partner who has a different culture with you is easy though. It requires respect, time and open-mindedness from both parties. Both the people who are involved in the relationship should exert effort in order for the connection to work out and prosper. Here are some tips to keep that cross-cultural romance going. It sure is hard, but it can work out.

1.  Find time to know each other's differences and similarities. This is the most important tip to remember in order to make a cross cultural romance going. Finding out both of your culture's similarities and differences will enable you both to work out the things that you are not comfortable in each other. This will enable you to synthesize your similarities and then use it to find some unity in your differences. Knowing it all is the key component to avoid complications.

2.  Respect each other's culture. No one will get hurt if both of you have respect for each other's beliefs and practices. Respect also plays a major role in a healthy relationship. Not only does it maintain a formidable relationship, but it also saves both of you from conflicts, fights and clashes. Having respect for each other will enable you to deeply understand each other's practices and beliefs. It will also help you gain a better understanding about why people, whom your partner share the same belief, do such things and practice such rituals.

3.  Do a "culture exchange". This is a fun way in order to try out the practices and customs of your partner. Experiencing their tradition first hand will enable you to see and understand for yourself, the customs, traditions and ways of your partner. This will also enable both of you to contribute to the enrichment of one's cultures and to the cultivation of one's self.

4.  Keep an open mind and an open heart.  Being in a cross cultural relationship is a hard thing to do, especially that there are possibilities of conflicts and misunderstandings, but keeping your mind open to possibilities and prospects can save you from all these problems. So, remember to keep that mind and heart wide open.

Cross-cultural romance is not easy, well any kind of relationship never is. But you can make it less difficult. Just try these few simple tips and for sure, you will survive this challenge of having different cultures.

Important Guidelines For a Every Woman

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Relationships are a two-way street that requires the utmost devotion between two people. While some relationships are specifically entered into for the purpose of having fun, others involve more serious emotions, the desire to settle down and make a lifetime commitment. For many women, commitment is something that is hard to get from men with whom they wish to share the rest of their life.

Although frustrating, it is also not without a solution. Listed below are a number of solid tips on how to get him to commit, without jeopardizing your present relationship.

Be Open about What You Want

A lot of women are looking to seal the deal with their men, yet they are unwilling to communicate exactly how they feel. In order to get your man to even consider the idea of settling down, it is imperative that you make your wishes clear when the time is right. There always comes a time in every relationship when each party need to tell each other what they want out of the partnership.

Regardless of what you think he might say or how he reacts, it is important to let it be known that you want and need commitment from him at some point. This way, he does not feel ambushed when you tell him that you feel it’s time to take it to the next step.

How To Get Him To Commit: Repetition is Never Effective

After you both have had "the talk", it is never wise to repeat yourself, at least not sooner than necessary. Reminding your man about your need of commitment repeatedly is never a wise move as it might put enormous pressure on him. Tackling the subject of settling down once every 6 months is enough, so try not to overdo it or he might just shut down on you completely.

Give Subtle Reminders of Your Best Qualities

Men are fickle by nature; hence, the natural aversion to the idea of settling down or getting married. However, it becomes easier to get a man to commit by reminding him of just how much better his life is with you in it.

Little things like cooking a nice meal or having his friends or family over for a special dinner would definitely get him thinking about the future and how great it would be if you are beside him through all the years ahead.

Allow Him Time to Process

While so many men are afraid of commitment and all the responsibilities/restrictions that come with it, others are more than willing to entertain the possibility. What most men really need is some time to process and think through everything so that they can come up with a sound decision of his own, actually this is the `Secret`, steer him in the right direction but let him think, he will come up with the answer by himself.

Giving ultimatum is never a good idea, especially if your man already seems on the fence. Letting him warm up to the idea of marriage and lifetime commitment make it easier for both of you in the long run.

Show Some Flexibility

In the same way that some men are adamant and have a non-committal attitude towards romantic relationships, women can also dig their heels about the matter. Showing some flexibility as to the time frame and other relevant factors involving marriage would make him see that you are not desperate.

Tell Him Your Plans

Some men severely lack imagination, which prevents them seeing the bright future they can have with the woman they love. Letting him in on your plans for the future is one of the best ways on how to get him to commit. It might very well be that what you have longed for is exactly what he wants as well.

How To Get Him to commit? Easy... Make Him Feel He Has a Choice

The feeling of being trapped is one of the scariest things for men, which prompts them to stay as far away from the subject of marriage as possible. Letting him know that he has a choice in the matter is something that you should do if you want him to commit on his own volition. After all, you want a man who genuinely wants you, right?

These are merely guidelines on how to get him to commit, since all relationships are different, it is always best to act based on what you know about your man and what you really want to do as far as your relationship.

STOP WASTING YOUR PRECIOUS TIME, WORK TO WIN YOUR MAN TOTAL DEVOTION AND ENTHUSIASTIC COMMITMENT TO YOU AND YOUR FUTURE TOGETHER