The desire to last longer
time in bed is a common one among both men and women. Partners who are interested in this should
learn some tips about how to last longer in bed – provided that both partners’
expectations are realistic. If one or both partners place unrealistic
expectation on the man’s ability to achieve long sex duration, then performance
anxiety can set in and further disrupt sexual pleasure. Since sexual intercourse
is an important act in relationship (emphasis on committed relationship or
marriage), couples should know not only tips for lasting longer, but facts that
dispel common misconceptions about a man’s staying power as well.
1.
These are facts. There is a notable
difference between what people want in bed and what they can reasonably expect
(without proper preparations). Let’s look at these bits of information:
. A cosmopolitan
magazine survey of more than 2,500 women found that more than 70% said their
desired length of intercourse (from penetration to male orgasm) is over 10
minutes, with most saying 15-25 minutes.
- The same magazine
surveyed about 30,000 men and found that, on average, they want longer sessions
(including foreplay) to last 35-40 minutes.
.The truth is that
the average man can handle 3-7 minutes of continual thrusting before
ejaculation
Clearly, you can see
some of people’s expectations around sex are unrealistic – at least unless they
adopt some methods to lengthen the duration of sexual intercourse. Many men don’t
have the problem of short time duration of sex – only 2.5% of men suffer from
premature ejaculation, which is defined as finishing within one minute. Couples need to understand that lasting for a
short period of time is completely normal, it’s not a man’s fault and they can learn
how to lengthen their sexual encounters.
2.
Proper training is key. There are a
couple of exercises men can do to increase their control over ejaculation time.
One is to perform kegels: this is done by contracting the muscles that control
the flow of urine through the penis. This exercise is also known to strengthen
erectile function; 3 sets of 15 repeats spread throughout the day are
sufficient to make a difference, and they can be done anywhere if you have the
discipline to achieve that.
Physical exercise can
be helpful since it would help in proper circulation of blood to your system.
Modify your diet; avoiding junks and eating right. Any good step that will
increase blood flow to the groin will be beneficial since enough flow will
improve the quality of erection. But make sure that the underlying sicknesses
that hinder proper blood circulation or flow to the genital areas are cured or
properly managed.
3.
Though the speed varies. Remember 3-7
minutes of continual thrusting is the normal time it takes for a healthy man to
finish. If both partners are fond of jackhammer style of sex that is fast and
constant, it won’t be reasonable to expect much longer from a man. Therefore
when he is about to come, he can take this cue in cooporation with his partner
to lengthen their activity.
4.
Try the “7 and “9 method. The 7 and 9
method dictates a more structured approach to varying speed. The man thrusts
fast 7 times, then 9 times more slowly and repeats.
5.
Have mid-play. A man can maintain both
penile and vaginal stimulation without thrusting in and out. When he is about
to come, he can pull out and rub the head of his penis along the woman’s labia
and the opening of her vagina. He can even use the tip to stimulate her
clitoris. The parts mentioned are very sensitive.
6.
Thrust shallow. Along with varying
thrust speed, the depth can be changed to extend duration. While stimulation of
the top of the shaft and head is still immensely pleasurable, it may bring
about ejaculation slower than full engulfment of the organ. Also, shallow
thrusts are the best for hitting her G-spot, so she won’t be likely to
complain. Classic doggie style with shallow thrusts may be great for a man’s
ability to control thrust depth and hitting the G-spot.
7.
Be more in the moment. Avoid the race
to finish quick mentality. It can be hard to delay that immensely pleasurable
moment; sometimes people let go unconsciously despite the desire to last longer.
Men can try to shift their perspective from seeing sex as a means to orgasm to
seeing it as an enjoyable experience at all its many possible stages.
These are suggestions, you can benefit from them if you can practice them strictly. However whatever what works for you to strengthen the bond in your marriage is ok.
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