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agging has to be the most annoying habits in any relationship. And it appears most of the culprits are women. If you are guilty of nagging, do not let this unfortunate behaviour put a wedge between you and your partner. Here are few tips to help you stop being a nag.
1) Get a life
You heard me right. If you have so much time to nag your partner, then it means you don’t have a focus. Ask yourself questions such as these: what are my goals, have I achieved them? If not, how do I achieve them? Does my partner owe me anything? How can I make him happy? How can I be more useful? If you ask yourself the right questions, you'll find the answers to having a life whilst being in a relationship. Simply put, if you have important and exciting things to do, you won't have the time to be a nag.
2) Do not try to change your partner.
The truth of the matter is that you cannot change a person. You may influence change but at the end of the day, it's up to the person to change. So if you nag in the hope that your partner will change, unfortunately it will most likely just annoy them. The only person you can change is yourself. You may want to change how you view the situations where you find yourself nagging. You may find that it's actually you who has the problem, not your partner. Live and let live.
3) Remember the important stuff
If you love your partner, then being with them should be the most important thing. No one is perfect, so cut them some slack. I'm sure everybody including you, has an annoying habit or two. Would you rather lose your partner over socks lying on the floor or would you just pick them up if it's that important to you and still have the love of your life? Your choice!
4) Practice empathy
How would you like it if the tables were turned? If you were to watch yourself on video nagging, would you like it? Just try think of how your partner feels each time you nag. Would you blame him if he started dreading coming home to you? So each time you catch yourself nagging, just listen to yourself and stop, bearing in mind how your partner may feel.
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