I look around me
and see men and women of great intelligence who due to poor choices, over
estimation of selves, pride, arrogance and self- conceitedness missed
opportunities which may have significantly changed their lives.
This class of human beings in their primes had no respect for
anyone who they considered to be below their non –existent or imaginary realms
of self-importance, greatness and glory.
The men carried on like God’s gifts to women. Every woman of
their age who would have made a wonderful wife, mother and lover for life was
too short, inadequately educated and not suitable for their class and positions
in society, their future, totally uncouth or someone for smaller juuuu guys.
They reveled in self -glorification, embellishment, body
building, alcohol, drugs and other vices, just name them. They wore tailor made
Seville Row suits, best shoes and colognes. All the ladies dying to hold their
hands in marriage, worship and behold them for life were treated with the
greatest disdain, lied to, used, abused, violated and abandoned because they
believed that their beautiful ones were not yet born and the world was at their
feet and will remain their stage forever. Haaaaaaaa. One of my teachers comes
to mind.
Then the ladies, mhmh! Some of us saw ourselves as queens who
must be worshiped and revered like gods and goddesses. To say that some of us
were overly conceited, rude, arrogant, uncaring, demanding, demeaning and
disrespectful will be an understatement. Potential mother in-laws were in fact
ugly witches. Mmhhhh, a few of us come to mind here because we are actually now
looking like the real witches while those missed great women are looking
absolutely fab.
Every man that came our way was like our father’s poor
drivers and could not afford us. Sadly this class of babes had built their
requirements and expectations of future hubbies on Mills and Boons fairy tales
not realising that they were all fictions. They shined and glowed like the
moon, stars and morning sun. In their deluded minds they were truly, every
man’s delight and queens who must be worshiped. Men bowed at their knees
begging for a chance. They simply won’t look at them because as far as they
were concerned they were better than them. The only people that qualified in
the minds of some of us then were dead men walking type of old sugar daddies
who could afford to fly us around the world, wine and dine us in the best hotels
not minding that they looked like our grand dads and we should rather be
married to their hunk of sons who the sugar daddies unfortunately considered
too good for our life style which had turned us into serious gold diggers.
Then suddenly the penny drops. The almighty evening falls.
The men and women look round and they are all over the hill. Many of the
handsome and beautiful men and women who worshiped them begging for their hands
in marriage are all long gone, happily married with children and wealthier than
these breed of humans could have ever imagined.
Panic sets in. Even the most evil and vile of these men and
women will find religion. Some will even become pastors, church elders, mums
and dads preaching God, chastity, eternity, sanctity of mind, heart, soul and
conscience, match makers, marriage counsellors and name it. Their friends who
they considered cheap, stupid and silly because they were wise and made the
right choices without being so self -conceited and consumed by pride and
arrogance are now at different levels and very happy. Envy sets in and they
look at them and wonder why they did not see what those cheap men and women of
those days saw in their now rich or happy wives and husbands and why they were
not wise enough to marry them for themselves.
The table has indeed turned because they chase anything in
skirt or trousers with every breath in their system not minding how ugly or
poor they may be so long as they are happy to give them the titles of husbands
and wives. THE SENSIBLE ONES SEE THEM BEFORE THEY ARRIVE AND DO BEN JOHNSON ON
THEM. They fight to finish in order to keep anyone they could catch even when
families are saying “please go away, leave us alone, you do not belong here and
we cannot afford you”. That juu guy or ugly bitch suddenly becomes very
attractive. Some will even use babalawo etc. If they turn up as old friends to
spend the evening and you say one thing out of line you get that “is it because
you are married”? I am not after your man or woman etc. Mind you, you never
said they were after your man or woman. They said it because they would love to
but your babe or guy is not interested. OMG!!! You can never get it right with
this class of humans anymore.
What those hiding behind the church to find long gone
husbands and wives are not telling the poor people they are misleading in
church is that they have suddenly realised that their chances are slim. They
are therefore desperately seeking companionship, love and comfort in their old
ages with little or no chance because though they realise how silly they have
been, they are still not ready to come down their world of illusion and accept
that they were after all not all that they thought they were and life is not
about looks and money but meeting of minds and hearts. We are indeed now over
the hill.
Then the big issue, they preach religion from their mouths
while they target every self-made wife or husband or worst still the young
single rich and famous in the church who are years younger than them and tell
you that age is just a number. YEAAAAAH! YOU ARE RIGHT! You need someone your
age who you can communicate with, not money or someone who will wake up in the
morning, see the wrinkles, go to work and never come back and won’t even say
good bye.
I simply laugh and hope that many people who are at this
stage in their lives are looking around and being real to the likely way they
may end if they do not get real; single and bitter not because anyone stopped
them from finding love but because they believed in themselves more than love,
compromises and sacrifices. Please stop competing with those young people. We
have passed it. Let’s get off our high horses and get real. Leave those clingy
old designer clothes. They are now called old school and makes no difference to
the young person.
And trust me, there is nothing like readymade homes. To find
love, be happy and revel in the joy of marriage or companionship, you must be
willing to give not just take, worship not just be worshiped or adored or
revered as a god or goddess. That is how life works.
For the younger generations, borrow a leaf, get real and help
build the type of home you dream about. Everyone deserves a chance. A poor ugly
man and woman when fully loved and supported can become the Dangotes or Oprahs
of tomorrow if that is what you want. Leave the church alone. Jesus died to
save your life not to find you a husband or wife. That man or woman singing off
his head and heart, praying like hell and dancing to get your attention in
church is as desperate and frustrated as you. He/She might be the mistake or
disaster of a life time waiting to complete your unfulfilled life. Do the right
thing, be genuinely nice, kind, loving and non-judgmental and let God send you
your Adam or Eve.
OK IF YOU DO NOT BELIEVE ME, TELL YOUR IRON MONGER PARENTS TO
DOLE OUT SERIOUS CASH AND MOULD YOUR DIAMOND OR PLATINUM DESIGNER QUALITY WIFE
OR HUSBAND.
SORRY NO OFFENCE. IT’S MY TRAVELLING MIND AGAIN.
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