By Barr Godson Nwachukwu
UNFORGIVENESS: unforgiveness drifts partners apart. Once there's an unforgiveness, there's a putting away. It does not mean the spouses won’t live together. It means in their hearts, they've been separated. Many partners are living apart from each other but under the same roof.
THIRD PARTY INTERFERENCE: Don’t allow your siblings, friends or parents to dictate what happens in your home via their advice, no matter how innocent their advice might seems to be.
SELFISHNESS: This also destroys relationship. You think only yourself. What and what you can get. You don’t think of what to give out in that relationship but only what you can get. Don’t think of what America will do for you but... Oh sorry! Don’t think of what your partner will do for you but what you will do for your partner.
LACK OF VISION on the part of men: most intelligent women want to know where you're going. Where are you headed? Prov29v18, "Where there is no vision, you run wild..."
LACK OF SUBMISSION on the part of women.... Some women can never submit to men. If they are more educated and financially too! Mostly white ladies.
THE WAY FORWARD
Appreciate your partner and choose your words carefully when talking with them. Never take them for granted. You don’t say words that could destroy your relationship; words that could pull the person down. I'm not saying that there's no room for rebuke; but rebuke in love.
Show interest in that relationship. Don’t be cold. Show commitment. Let your relationship not be one sided.......
Reach Barr Godson Nwachukwu via email: kbarrgodson@yahoo.com
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Why not be tender,
caring and loving than stressful and troublesome! What do you gain from mischief?
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NAGGING: Prov 21v9 says," It
is better to live at the corner of a roof than to live with a nagging
woman." But it is not only women that nag. Some men nag more than women.
UNFORGIVENESS: unforgiveness drifts partners apart. Once there's an unforgiveness, there's a putting away. It does not mean the spouses won’t live together. It means in their hearts, they've been separated. Many partners are living apart from each other but under the same roof.
THIRD PARTY INTERFERENCE: Don’t allow your siblings, friends or parents to dictate what happens in your home via their advice, no matter how innocent their advice might seems to be.
SELFISHNESS: This also destroys relationship. You think only yourself. What and what you can get. You don’t think of what to give out in that relationship but only what you can get. Don’t think of what America will do for you but... Oh sorry! Don’t think of what your partner will do for you but what you will do for your partner.
LACK OF VISION on the part of men: most intelligent women want to know where you're going. Where are you headed? Prov29v18, "Where there is no vision, you run wild..."
LACK OF SUBMISSION on the part of women.... Some women can never submit to men. If they are more educated and financially too! Mostly white ladies.
THE WAY FORWARD
Prophesy: Regularly
prophesy to your relationship. Things may be going on well today but keep
speaking to God concerning that relationship. Pray for your partner and
maintain a positive confession even if things are not the way they should be.
SUPPORT: Don’t pull down your partner in order to prove a point. If your spouse fails, you fail also. Who are you proving the point to? So take initiatives to support your partner. Always use the words, " I'M SORRY." They are small words but they have great impart. Prov 15v1. When you're wrong, just keep quiet as your partner is complaining. If you want to respond, don’t respond when you're angry. Bursting out is not the best option. There are words you will say to someone, years after, they will still remember them. Some words can kill someone emotionally. Please don’t say, "That's the way I speak when I am angry". If the way you speak is killing someone, please change. You won’t gain anything rather you escalate (add to) the problem. I don’t mean you shouldn’t talk at all; you'd better do instead of keeping malice. Don’t bottle up your anger. Some people can keep malice for days/weeks. It is not good at all. If you want to speak, please do at the appropriate time. Not immediately but later when you know that the misunderstanding has subsided. Don’t cut off the line of communication. Communication is very important.
SUPPORT: Don’t pull down your partner in order to prove a point. If your spouse fails, you fail also. Who are you proving the point to? So take initiatives to support your partner. Always use the words, " I'M SORRY." They are small words but they have great impart. Prov 15v1. When you're wrong, just keep quiet as your partner is complaining. If you want to respond, don’t respond when you're angry. Bursting out is not the best option. There are words you will say to someone, years after, they will still remember them. Some words can kill someone emotionally. Please don’t say, "That's the way I speak when I am angry". If the way you speak is killing someone, please change. You won’t gain anything rather you escalate (add to) the problem. I don’t mean you shouldn’t talk at all; you'd better do instead of keeping malice. Don’t bottle up your anger. Some people can keep malice for days/weeks. It is not good at all. If you want to speak, please do at the appropriate time. Not immediately but later when you know that the misunderstanding has subsided. Don’t cut off the line of communication. Communication is very important.
Appreciate your partner and choose your words carefully when talking with them. Never take them for granted. You don’t say words that could destroy your relationship; words that could pull the person down. I'm not saying that there's no room for rebuke; but rebuke in love.
Show interest in that relationship. Don’t be cold. Show commitment. Let your relationship not be one sided.......
Reach Barr Godson Nwachukwu via email: kbarrgodson@yahoo.com
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