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he old saying
"a good man is hard to find" might feel true, even if it's not. There
are plenty of good men in the world who would enjoy being in a committed relationship.
In fact, more men than you realize would prefer being in a relationship than
not. If you get hung up on finding the perfect man or only believe there is
"one man" and "one man only" out there for you, you might
be surprised to learn that there are several men with whom you will find
yourself compatible.
Love
Yourself First
The first thing
you can do to attract a good man is to start loving yourself first. Deal with
your self-acceptance and love issues up front. If you had bad relationships
with your parents, or an ex, you might want to consider finding a way to
resolve these issues. When you love and accept yourself fully (no, we're not
talking about being selfish), you can't help but radiate confidence--which
everyone finds attractive.
Another problem
with not loving yourself results in attracting the WRONG kind of man. If you
grew up with abuse in any way shape or form, if you haven't resolved these
personal experiences and come to terms with them, you'll have a behind-the-scenes
attraction going on for the wrong kind of man. The greater part of you knows
exactly what you need to grow--and when you avoid facing long-suppressed
negative emotions resulting from a troubled childhood--you will draw negative
people and circumstances into your life to help you move past these issues.
You'll keep having experiences that will allow you to play these emotions out
until they are gone from you. That includes attracting abusive men into your
life.
Deal With
Your Past
Find a way to deal
with your past and make amends with it if you want to attract the right kind of
man into your life. Secondly, quit looking in bars for "good men."
This is not the place to look for men. You might find one in there on occasion,
but the really good men are usually too busy to go out to the bar unless he is
going out with a group of friends. You'll more than likely find a good man by
simply following through with your own interests and hobbies.
Follow
Your Passions
Pursue your own
passions. Become self-fulfilled and never make another person responsible for
your happiness. Making someone else the center of your life is demanding and
suffocating. Find out what you are interested in and what you enjoy and go
after these wholeheartedly. When you are pursuing the things that make you the
happiest, you are "attractive" to the kind of man that you want.
Quit
Looking for Perfection
Quit looking for
perfection. Are you perfect? Then why are you looking for it in a man? If you
lock yourself into a "certain" kind of man with a specific look and
income level, you may not find the kind of man you truly seek. Maybe the right
man is a tad shorter than you, or maybe he forgets to tuck in his shirt. Maybe
he's got a lopsided grin or more than a few freckles. It's often the faults in
our loved ones that make us love them more, not the other way around.
If you're
looking for a guy who has the looks of George Clooney or Brad Pitt, do you look
like Angelina Jolie, or like any one of the beautiful models that Clooney
dates? More than likely not. Looks fade with time and are only skin deep. Go
for the man, who has the heart of gold, it's worth more than 100 men that look
like Brad Pitt.
Do you feel as
if you always attract the "wrong" kind of man? There is a reason for
this and it's often hidden deep inside. Decide to move past dating and move
onto a committed relationship
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