Recipe For A Happy Family

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By Esther Obazu-Ojeagbase

Pastor Mrs Esther Obazu-Ojeagbase

One’s desire to have financial freedom, live an honourable, glorious and peaceful life could be marred with trouble and distress if one fails to be on one’s guard all the time. We have the duty to control our feelings, actions and what we say. The home is very important. A well known American author, Taylor Caldwel, once said, “I would rather cook a meal for a man, bring his slippers and feel myself in the protection of his arm than have all citations and honours I have received worldwide.” This is applicable to men too. Without a home there is no true freedom, hope, joy, no expectations for tomorrow, and there is no contentment.

APPRECIATION IS A MARITAL TOOL

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By Chukwuneta Obiageli

Appreciate your partner no matter how little their effort to make you happy!

When I came across a friend’s ‘black berry’ status update some time back, I wasted no time in telling her that she had made my day with such moving tribute to her husband (whose birthday was on that day).The words may seem simple but the message is powerful and I quote ‘’ Happy birthday to the man, that makes my smile his priority –may you know no sorrow’’. This can only come from a woman that appreciates her blessing .I teach women this (appreciation) a lot. Go out of your way to appreciate your man’s efforts (no matter how little) towards your happiness. Any man you praise for the little favours he shows you -will double his efforts next time. It is most discouraging when someone begins to feel that whatever he does for you is like pouring water into a basket.

Things Women Do To Destroy Their Marriages.

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By Esther Obazu-Ojeagbase

Wives bear as much responsibility as husbands. We have the power to make our homes, or break our marriages and so it’s very important for a wife to control anger, guide her tongue and be prayerful.

How wives hurt their husbands

While both husband and wife should take responsibility for their parts in a marriage, below are ten mistakes common to women, which can completely destroy a marriage. When women exhibit the following behaviours, it can create a hostile environment, where no one feels safe or comfortable.

SOME MARRIED MEN ARE TICKING TIME BOMBS WAITING TO EXPLODE. GET SMART LADIES!

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By Jenny Chika Okafor

What!!! So you don't want the baby!

You meet him. He swears he is the Prince charming you have been waiting for but there is a catch: he is married with children but living apart under the same roof with his wife while waiting for their divorce to come through and most importantly for the sake of their beautiful children.

The equal rights syndrome has brought harm to the marriage system

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By Odimegwu Onwumere

Commenting on a post on my Facebook page, a lady wrote that to be a good husband one has to be willing to act as an ox whose only role is to carry passengers as well as luggage and still endure harsh treatment.

The above statement is without doubt the mindset of many ladies in our clime today. And this could be the reason many women these days treat their men with disdain, apart from those with the gender equality madness. To this set of ladies they believe that it is eye for eye, tooth for tooth and blood for blood with the men. They see the duties of wives in their matrimonial homes as slavery. They do not have respect for the men or rather put; they believe that a man should respect himself beyond a reasonable doubt before he should expect same from his woman.

PREPARING FOR MARRIAGE (part 1)

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By Barr Godson Nwachukwu

How prepared are you to embark on this journey?

A married man was travelling in an air craft and was wearing his wedding ring on a wrong finger and someone noticed and said "Sir, you're wearing your ring on a wrong finger". The man responded, “Don’t worry; it is because I married a wrong woman".

OVER THE HILL: OLDER MEN, OLDER WOMEN AND HUMAN NATURE.

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By Jenny Chika Okafor

Is it too late to love? No. If only we can come off our fictitious imagination, get real and humble ourselves, we will have it soon

I look around me and see men and women of great intelligence who due to poor choices, over estimation of selves, pride, arrogance and self- conceitedness missed opportunities which may have significantly changed their lives. 

RECOGNIZE THE SIGNS

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By Barr Godson Nwachukwu

Do you really care?

How do you show your partner that you love them? Do you give them gifts? Do you take them out for a meal or cook a special dinner for them? Do you tell them half a dozen times a day, ' I love you?' And do they do the same for you?

PUT EACH OTHER FIRST

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By Barr Godson Nwachukwu

Put your partner first. Selfishness will never work in relationship.

I know a couple who decided to seize an opportunity to build themselves a house, and the man took charge of the work. Halfway through the process, the woman decided- for entirely valid reasons , one of which was that the area was prone to armed robbery attacks - that she wasn't at all sure she wanted to live in that house when it was completed. The man on the other hand had put a great deal of effort into it and didn't want to waste it.

FORGIVE SEVENTY TIMES SEVEN

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By Barr Godson Nwachukwu

Do you find it difficult to forgive? Forgive always. It's divine! It frees your soul and makes you come to light.

Forgiveness within marriage starts well, but becomes more difficult if the other partner refuses to change. When your spouse repeatedly sin against or wrong you, it is tough to keep on giving forgiveness.

MARRIAGE IS NOT A CONTRACT BUT A COVENANT.

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By Barr Godson Nwachukwu

I studied the law of CONTRACT in the university so I'm conversant with what it entails. Also, I read my Bible meticulously, so I know what COVENANT means, apart from their dictionary meaning.

A MAN AND WIFE'S SALARIES AND ACCOUNTS

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By Barr Godson Nwachukwu

There're men who collect their wives' salaries as soon as they are paid. In this situation, it is expected that the man should disburse all the monies to be expanded in family budgets, contingencies and exigencies. However, this has proved not to be a very reliable and advisable system because it is not always that the man is available to provide for everything his family may need. Moreover, it is not always good for the wife to keep asking for money to buy kerosene today and money to buy matches tomorrow. This frequent asking for money by wives has known to be one of the commonest causes of matrimonial misunderstanding.

PHYSICAL AND SEXUAL COMPATIBILITY 2

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By Barr Godson Nwachukwu

Is their chemistry between you?

If a man refuses to face these facts and marries a lady although he has reservations about her looks, a distance will build between them with time. He will find her less and less attractive. He will spend less time with her and be close to her only out of duty. He will often find the sexual relationship with her boring. He'll tend to kiss her less and less, and, with time, their relationship will become cold and formal; and if they labour and grow in Christian character, the relationship will become one of a brother and sister and not of a husband and wife.

PHYSICAL AND SEXUAL COMPATIBILTY

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By Barr Godson Nwachukwu

Do they appeal to you sexually? Don't say you are not warned!

I've been attending marriage seminars for the past 6months and many things are being discussed. The title is one of the topics discussed.
But before, I go into it, I must state that, outward appearance and sexual appeal may be what attracts us to each other, but neither has any power to sustain the relationship. That kind of attraction is like perfume. Your senses will smell it when you are putting it on, but within minutes you will not be aware of the scent.

FOR BETTER FOR WORSE

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By Barr Godson Nwachukwu

For better For worse

The first question the officiating priest asks a man during his wedding in the open and to the hearing of everyone- is whether he will take the woman as his wedded wife,......Love her, comfort her, honour, and keep her, in sickness and in health; and forsaking all other, keep only unto her, so long as both shall live.

THINGS THAT AFFECT LOVE IN A RELATIONSHIP

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By Barr Godson Nwachukwu

Why not be tender, caring and loving than stressful and troublesome! What do you gain from mischief?

NAGGING: Prov 21v9 says," It is better to live at the corner of a roof than to live with a nagging woman." But it is not only women that nag. Some men nag more than women.

WHY MARRIAGES BREAK UP

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By Barr Godson Nwachukwu

These days, people appear to have forgotten that it was not by mistake that God made Eve out of that ribs of Adam to be a Helper to him.They abuse marriage, descrate it and subgect it to all manner of humiliation.As a result, a lot of marriages hit the rocks soon after they are contracted.

There is a hope of love for you

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Are you struggling with getting over a recent breakup and NOT sure how you are going to deal with Valentine’s Day? Do you worry about seeing your ex out... or even worse, do you already know he's got plans with someone else, while YOU stay home and mope? The truth is, while the holidays are often festive time for many who are in love, there is a dark and depressing side to many traditional celebratory days that is painful as well.

Gratitude will contribute to the success of your relationship

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Play a little each day

Studies have shown that expressing gratitude toward one's partner builds trust, satisfaction and connection in our relationships. When we express gratitude we set off a series of emotions (i.e. generosity, love, warmth, happiness and trust) in ourselves and in our partners. These emotions are even stronger when we sense that our partner's actions reflect caring about our needs and preferences.